Hi fedi friends… things are really not ok… like actually legitimately pretty shit…
But I desperately need to make silly posts and chat with y’all like everything is ok…
Is that alright? Can both things be true?
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No damn sleep last night.
Anxiety. Stare at wall. Cat meows. Bed creaks. Spouse sighs. Flicker of phone screen. Furnace runs. Cat meows again.
Up, into pajama pants, rumpled t-shirt. Stumble into kitchen. Feed cats. Reheat yesterday's coffee. Slouch on couch. Sip.
Cat ignores food. Races from front to back of house, crazed. Leaps onto windowsill. Stares outside. Meows again.
It takes a great deal of strength to speak about #PTSD and #Anxiety and #mentalhealth
Mikaela Shiffrin is a wonderful role model and human being.
It's #Aprilfools Just a friendly reminder to not do that shit to people with #anxiety or #ptsd . That's a sure way to loose a good friend #mentalhealth
Wow, I didn't know there was a word for constantly having your flight-or-fight repose turned on like I do. It's called hyperarousal. I'm starting to wonder if everything is connected... fear, anger, blood pressure, muscle tension. What if all of it is caused by something super simple like a tumor on my amygdala or something like that.
Cleveland ClinicHyperarousal: When Protective Instincts Do More Harm Than GoodHyperarousal is an overreaction of your “fight-or-flight” response. Learn about the possible causes and treatments.
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Autistic Coach I think the core of anxiety relief is developing trust in yourself that you can handle situations, even bad situations. Trusting you will be able to get through it.
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Greater #MentalHealth understanding is good, but it can only go so far without mental health *understanding*
Hence you should read 'Psycho-Logical', all about the science of mental health, by Dean Burnett
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Hip update…
...kind of...
I start writing this post 5 days before the scheduled call from the surgeon. I got the puncture done 8 days ago. And the surgeon will call me in 5 days (as I write this). Unfortunately... It's a 15:00 call, so I'll have the whole day to be anxious about it. As I'm already anxious about it now.
I mean, I know I need a surgery. I know that hip bowl (or is it a cup?) needs to be placed in the right position again. So my leg can stop "wobbling", so it can stop tingling, […]
It's not Me, It's You
Collapse-awareness: an incurable case of existential dread
I'm incurable.
I've been to psychologists and while the venting seems to help, nothing really cures me from my constant dread. I'm not a mental health expert, but I believe psychologists are simply not equipped to deal with existential anxiety.
Worried about nothing in general? Cognitive behavioural therapy can help.
Suffer from stage fright? There's a pill for that.
Crippled by depression? It could be caused by an chemical imbalance in your brain.
Under normal circumstances, psychologists have methods for dealing with these issues. They are temporary or internal - caused by one's own brain. I.e. a "me" problem.
But what if the source of my dread is permanent and external. In other words, my brain is not the problem. My brain is simply observing facts. How do you cure reality?
Whether you're toiling in a concentration camp, trapped in the sunken Kursk submarine, or simply observing the burning world, there is no cure for reality. Most mainstream psychologists aren't equipped or experienced enough to deal with these things. Also, many collapse-aware don't know how to broach the subject.
The best most professionals can do is listen and prescribe a mind-numbing agent. (I still can't decide whether anti-anxiety meds are a good or bad thing to use in this situation.)
However, there is a branch of psychology dedicated to those in hospice. This is the closest the profession comes to being capable of dealing with collapse-awareness. If you're experiencing existential dread, I believe a professional must attack the anxiety from this angle.
The collapse-aware have unique needs from psychologists. They don't need someone to tell them "it's going to be alright". So what do we need?
For some, that's what religion is for. Religion makes death and the unknown palatable. It also gives the illusion that something is in control and that this chaos is by design. I understand the appeal.
Realistically, most collapse-aware are evidence based thinkers and won't accept religion. At least not in the traditional sense.
Side note: I have tailored my views on religion beyond belief vs disbelief. First of all, I don't follow any organized religion. Rather, I view the concept of god as a metaphor for the beauty and mystery of the world. My 'religion' is about doing, not talking, symbolizing or worshipping. In fact, if there were a god entity, I believe that entity would judge people by what they do with their lives, not by whether they believe in him or visit a designated building weekly. I once created a set of rules for my own 'religion'. One day I'll share more. Anyway, back to the program...
If you happen to find the right collapse-aware psychologist, here's what they should provide:
Validate and normalize your feelings
Encourage you to talk and explore fears
Create relaxation techniques
Help you create meaning from your life, however long it may be
Find acceptance and peace with the inevitable
Identify areas of personal control
Good luck finding one though. It takes extra effort, and sometimes you must cycle through a few to find the someone suitable. As many of you know, there are many psychologists (and people in general) who still believe this doomsday shit is overblown.
Moreover, not everyone has the funds, ability or inclination to find and work with with a psychologist. So below I've provided a few resources to help manage through the fear of collapse.
Read the full article and have a look at the video's mentioned here:
Collapse 2050 · It's not Me, It's YouCollapse-awareness: an incurable case of existential dread
I mentioned earlier that I have this weird thing where sometimes I can't do things that I need to do. I had a period of three months where I wouldn't check my payslips, even though I needed to in case I got underpaid. I have frequent periods where I can't check my emails. This is especially if I've emailed someone I'm not close to and am expecting a reply.
As example is if I received faulty goods on Ebay. I've missed out on refunds because I send the complaint, but then I actively avoid checking for a reply.
Does anyone else experience things like this? I was looking at demand avoidance: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/demand-avoidance#What%20is%20demand%20avoidance
But I don't know if it's that or some weird manifestation of #anxiety. The best I can describe it is apprehension? It's hard to put a proper name to it. I get milder forms, where for instance if I need to transfer money to my savings and there's nothing stopping me, but I won't be able to do it. Then randomly I'll snap out of it and feel like I can do it. It's not procrastination or getting distracted. It's a different feeling from that.
www.autism.org.ukDemand avoidanceResistance to demands is a characteristic experienced by and observed in some autistic people. It is sometimes labelled as Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), but there is debate about the evidence for and usefulness of this label.
If your nervous system is always ramped up, it doesn’t take a whole lot to push you a little bit too far.
Time for an #Introduction post. I’m a #liveaboard #sailor (www.svloka.com) and full time #nomad who is also a #creative #artist. I play #guitar, #crochet, paint (#watercolor & #acrylic), and draw #penandink. I love #yoga and use #meditation to manage my #anxiety. Got #sober in 2020.
I am a recovering #softwareengineer (#programmer) and #ITmanager. I focused a lot on #leadership & effective #communication, and I still enjoy #mentoring people on those topics. I still tinker with tech on occasion.
Today is our 7th wedding anniversary. Looking back at the footage of the big day, you can see how anxious I was. Making my speech was one of the most nerve-racking experiences of my life. You can see that my hands were shaking.
Performing the first dance in front of a hundred or so people was another nervy affair. I managed to shuffle my feet from side to side just enough to avoid looking like I was stationary. It must be true love to have put myself through that! 
The easiest way to ruin my day is to schedule a phonecall or make an appointment somewhere midday.
'The more energy one needs to use to relieve anxiety, the less there is for creativity and joy.'
Yup. This makes sense to me! 
From Cyndi Saurez's
'The Power Manual'